Sex is taken very casually these days. It looks like nobody wants to follow the morals of life and society. Lots of us don't believe in saving sex for marriage. They think it doesn't matter to have sex before marriage, its not a big deal or there's no harm in having sex if you love somebody, or if we are engaged and will be getting married soon and so on. The truth is because of this casualty and negligence in sex before marriage there are so many physical risks involved. People are affected by so many diseases most of which has no treatments, like AIDS.

It also leads to emotional and relational damage by giving one's self to more than one person. The fact is if you can not control yourself before marriage...how can you be sure and how can you expect your mate will be solely yours after marriage. So, basically both partners cannot trust each other.

Such casualty and ignorance affect not only yourself physically and emotionally but also affects your partner and the lives of your loved ones. The other thing is if you have sex before marriage, you will never know whether the relationship is based on a true "kinship" with that person or just sex.

Most of you will say if you love somebody, then there is no harm in having sex. But today's modern society has somewhat forgotten what is real love. Some consider sex as an important part of love and that it is natural. Yes, it is an important part of your love but love and sex does not mean the same thing. The love which includes feelings and care about your partner is true love and the love which includes physical attraction and sex is infatuation. True Love waits. Your relationship should be able to grow and thrive without sex. True love also sometimes means denying oneself for a higher standard.

The fact is sex before marriage, whether you are engaged or dating or love somebody, is considered to be a sin. Marriage allows love to be expressed on our most intimate level with no mental, emotional or physical ties or obligations to another. Sex/Lovemaking is considered to be a precious gift from God to be presented to that somebody special with whom we are going to spend our life. God created sex and there is some good reason behind it. One reason is obvious and clear from the Bible, that God created Sex for procreation. When God told Adam and Eve to "be fruitful and multiply" (Genesis 1:28), they probably figured out that He wanted them to have sex. But God also wanted them to develop intimacy with one another, and He knew that sex would help them do that that nothing else could. God also knew that because sex is so powerful in creating intimacy that there must be some constraints on how it was to be used, so He specifically relegated sex to the arena of marriage. The kind of intimacy that God desires between a married couple cannot occur between one person and several others but only be experienced between one man and one woman. Hence God has specifically said, "Do not commit adultery".

Sex is such a beautiful and precious gift that it could only be given away for the first time and only once. Wouldn't this be a great gift for that one person who will be with you for the rest of your life? Yes, it definitely will be. It is meant only for marriage and it is for husband and wife only to enjoy it together and not to pass around to anyone.

It should be considered as a sacred gift for your partner on your wedding night as you would like to give her/him the best part of your life. Saving it for your marriage/wedding will make you feel good and special and you will notice there is some special kind of love, care and respect in that matrimony. Enjoying it at the right time brings satisfaction and happiness to the couple.

Even the scientific studies indicate that relationships that involve pre-marital sex fail. A relationship that starts with sex usually last only 2-3 years. A marriage usually runs into trouble in 3-5 years. If a couple have sex prior to marriage, it may start to fade just when the marriage troubles start, the strong sexual attraction may not be there when the couple needs it most.

Sex is a good thing. It must be, if God created it! The only way to keep it a "good thing" is to follow God's guidelines. God will reward you if you choose to honor Him, and save sex for its proper time and place - your marriage.