Is it okay to have
Sex during dating? A lot of people have this question in mind when they are dating successfully with somebody for a long time. But do you personally think it is okay? Those people who are serious about dating would keep sex away from it.
Sex is taken very casually these days. It is, in fact, considered as a part of dating. Some of you even believe that if you are successfully seeing one person, it is not dating but
love and that if you love that person, there is no harm in having sex with her/him. While the truth is such a casualty and negligence in sex during dating can affect you in so many ways.
The first major risk would be
physical illnesses. When you are just seeing this so called special one once a day or couple of times a week for few hours, what do you think how much you know about that person? Nothing! Its easy to pretend to be the nicest person on earth for few hours a week. That person might be suffering from diseases which have no cures, like AIDS.
Your body is so special for you and it could lead to
emotional and relational damage by giving yourself to somebody whom you know only for a while. The fact is if you are unable to control yourself and later on something wrong happens between you both which will result in the break up of your relationship, you will guilty conscious of what you did. And you never want that.
If its your partner who is forcing you to have sexual intercourse with her/him in spite of your continuous refusal, just guess that there is
something wrong about it. S/he might be just interested in that part of it and will dump you after that. If they are so much interested in you and your personality, they won't be persuading you to do anything which you won't approve of.
Such casualty and ignorance affect not only yourself
physically and emotionally but also affects your partner and the lives of your loved ones. The other thing is if you have sex during dating, you will never know whether the relationship is based on a true "kinship" with that person or just sex.
Sex should not be a part of dating at all since you know little about your date. You can save it for later years when you both have enough understanding about each other and when you both know the ins and outs of each other. In fact, one should save
sex for marriage and any kind of sex out of marriage is considered to be a sin. Sex/Lovemaking is considered to be a precious gift from God to be presented to that somebody special with whom we are going to spend our life. God created sex and there is some good reason behind it. One reason is obvious and clear from the Bible, that God created sex for procreation. But God also wanted them to develop intimacy with one another, and He knew that sex would help them do that and nothing else could. God also knew that because sex is so powerful in creating intimacy that there must be some constraints on how it was to be used, so He specifically relegated sex to the area of marriage. The kind of intimacy that God desires between a married couple cannot occur between one person and several others but only be experienced between one man and one woman. Hence God has specifically said, "Do not commit adultery". Read more on what the
bible says about sex.
Sex is such a beautiful and precious gift that it could only be given away for the first time and only once. Wouldn't this be a great gift for that one person who will be with you for the rest of your life? Yes, it definitely will be.
It is meant only for marriage and it is for husband and wife only to enjoy it together and not to pass around to anyone.
Even the scientific studies indicate that relationships that involve pre-marital sex fail. A relationship that starts with sex usually last only 2-3 years. Sex is a good thing. It must be, if God created it! The only way to keep it a "good thing" is to follow God's guidelines. God will reward you if you choose to honor Him, and save sex for its proper time and person.