Should I answer an ad---or write one of my own? Why not start slowly, until you get really good at it, by answering a few ads in your local or regional newspaper? Keep it close to home (geographically desirable) and answer only those ads that truly interest you. Confine your search to the publication or web site that allows electronic voice mail, a made-up name or ID number, or e-mail, and that do not require you to reveal your true identity unless you feel comfortable doing so.
How in the world can I know FOR SURE that a guy is all that he says he is, if I'm meeting him in cyberspace?Some really great, long-lasting relationships get their start in cyberspace. But it's as easy to make mistakes and overlook safety precautions on-line as it is in your own physical environment. So, look smart, be smart and use common sense. Don't be swayed by flattery and promise. Check out potential partners in every way you can. Write letters, talk by telephone (at least five times), ask questions requiring descriptions and dialogue (rather than yes-no answers). You get the picture.
Do personal romance ads really work?You bet they do! And the better your ad is written, the better it works. But you need to know that your ad probably will NOT attract the type of person you want it to if it is general and unspecific. On the other hand, you’ll attract MORE of the type of people you want if you state specifically what you’re after. Want someone who owns a business and has dark hair and blue eyes? Say so in your ad and see how well it works!
What are Ten Romancements for dating and romance? 1. You can really find happiness by using personal ads. Hey, you've worked hard for everything in life. Add some JOY!
2. Say hello to your personal value -- your own wit, intelligence and all the really cool things about you! REALLY! You've got tons of super cool stuff going for you!
3. Know that you can have the very best, if you use ads sensibly. Sorry, we have to play 'Mom', but it's true - common sense and good judgment are important to your SUCCESS!
4. If you write an ad, plan it carefully in advance. It's like doing the Homework, but it WORKS.
5. If you answer an ad, verify and validate information given to you by people who answer your ad. Even the nicest people are not totally truthful about themselves. Don't risk your well being and happiness -- really, tactfully EXPLORE!
6. When you're ready to meet someone in person, treat it as a first "meeting", not a date. Don't go to that rendezvous wearing rose-colored glasses and singing "Love Me Tender." Get REAL. Leave love-flavored expectations on the sideline and treat this like an initial, exploratory consultation.
7. Follow the
basic safety rules for first meetings. Take care of yourself!
8. Respect and honor those you meet through personal ads. Most of all, respect and honor YOURSELF. Everyone who's honest and sincere deserves a chance.
9. Don't assume anything. Perform
periodic CHECK-UPS. Sometimes our love is so intense it blinds us to the truth. Check in with your partner's feelings periodically. Get on the same track.
10.Recognize the right one when he or she arrives -- and welcome them! Can you imagine letting Mr. Right or Ms. Wonderful slip by while you have your eyes on someone else?! Have you set a 'requirement' -- like 'He must like cats' - that may cause you to eliminate someone who may be perfect for you? Take a look at your Must Have list and who's waiting in the wings and don't miss the Love Boat!
First Date Check ListBefore you meet that special someone you have connected through personal ads or a friend, review the following list to make sure you are setting the stage for success and taking special care of you. Then order Romancing in the Personal Ads for lots more great information and tips.