If you're like most adults, once upon a time you were in a relationship, felt you were in love, and thought you had found the right mate. Then you were disappointed with a breakup, perhaps so painful it left you scarred for months and in some cases even years. Well, I hate to break it to you, but if your current love relationship is not working, chances are that breaking up may be the way to a
successful relationship and a new life.

This article does not invite men and women to leave their relationship but is intended to explain one of the reasons why relationships fail. I hope you will take away knowledge you can use to ensure the success of your own love relationships. As a case study, let me relate the story of Jack and Jill.

Late in 2003 while Jack, a well-to-do accountant, was out shopping, his eyes caught a woman. She was very pleasing to the eye. Jack spoke to the woman and soon the two began dating. They were so happy from the start that they thought they were soulmates.

About two weeks into their dating, things had changed. They were now in a love relationship. Jack introduced his new-found love Jill to his son and Jill introduced Jack to her own family. Both Jack and Jill were single parents each with two children. Things seem to be moving along well for them. By this time, it was not uncommon for Jack to take Jill shopping, give her his credit card and watch her spend, spend and spend. Jill loved it. In her mind, she had found the perfect man. He was good-looking, academically educated, had a beautiful five-bedroom house and was financially secure.

As the relationship progressed to another stage, Jack was so happy with his new woman, he suggested marriage. Jill asked that Jack give her some time to think about his offer. Jill's reason for not going along with Jack's suggestion right away was she wanted to take it slow for the sake of her children. She wanted to make sure she was making the right decision for everyone involved.

Despite the happiness friends and family felt for Jack and Jill as their relationship progressed, deep inside Jill felt there was something amiss. Jill began to ponder their relationship with an objective frame of mind. She analyzed it and realized Jack was not treating her very well. All along she had been blinded by the fact that she had found a man. As far as Jack was concerned, everything was perfect. He was more than happy with the way Jill treated and took care of him.